Who are you? How would you answer that question? Perhaps with your name, but is that really who you are, how does your name define who you are? When you think about who you are it is inevitable to think about what you are. What defines you? Are you defined by your job, your title or your relationships? For me it was almost easy to become defined by those things I am Doctor Sergey Sorin, simply by having a title I was defined into who I am. That was until I spent sometime at the DMV and instead of being Doctor Sorin I was instantly transformed into “sir” and shuffled from this line to the next and who I was in that moment became the next task for the teller, who did not care or need to know who I was. So if I am not defined by my title then what does define me? This is the source of the Power behind the Power Principle, the answer is so simple, yet the action is not always easy. The answer is I am more. Each of us is so much more than society teaches us that we are. Once you claim and know this the doors of infinite possibilities begin to open. The Power Principle started as a weight loss guide and through personal growth I can say that there is so much more power in knowing the simple fact that I am more than I ever imagined.
“You can do anything you put your mind to,” according to an old saying. However, what happens when putting your mind to something just isn’t enough to succeed? Should we then conclude that more is needed?
Enter the concept and new phrase: mind-body-spirit over matter. “You can do anything you put your mind, body and spirit to,” says Dr. Sergey Sorin, author of“ The Power Principle: Mind-Body-Spirit Approach to Ultimate Weight Loss.” According to Dr. Sorin, a medical weight loss specialist, the majority of diets fail because so often the mind, body and spirit of dieters are not aligned. Dr. Sorin introduces the concept of a complete lifestyle overhaul that encompasses the way people think, feel, as well as eat . “Without the convergence of mind, body and spirit, a truly healthy lifestyle is incomplete, and fad dieters are bound to continue getting unstable, rollercoaster weight loss results,” says Sorin.
Sudden and radical changes in eating patterns are difficult to sustain over time. In fact, fad diets rarely have permanent effects. These “crash diets” often send dieters into a cycle of quick weight loss followed by “rebound” weight gain once normal eating resumes. The Food and Drug Administration says, “To lose weight safely and keep it off requires long-term changes in daily eating and exercise habits,” but Dr. Sorin’s methodology incorporates the added ingredient of taping into a person’s inner reservoir of “power” of which many are unaware. “The ability to lose weight begins from the inside out,” he says.
About Dr. Sorin
Dr. Sergey Sorin completed his family practice residency at Stony Brook Health Science Center in Brooklyn, NY. Since residency, he has worked as a physician in family practice, urgent care and emergency medicine.
He has participated in clinical research related to weight loss and is a member of the American Society of Bariatric Physicians.
He is currently the author of “The Power Principle: Mind-Body-Spirit Approach to Ultimate Weight Loss, a tool that goes beyond just the physical (body) aspect to tap into the mind and spirit, and the upcoming book “Are You Really Healthy?”
Are you a Body with a Soul, or a Soul with a Body?
Great philosophers and religious leaders have already addressed the question of the “Soul” which is eternal and is the true essence of who we really are. In this short installment I will simply go on the assumption that the entity of a “Soul” is a given.
If so, does it make any difference to ask the question above, Are You a Body with a Soul or are You a Soul with a Body? In my current understanding, the distinction between the two is absolutely essential to who we are (our identity) and what we do in this world.
If one identifies self with being a Body with an element of something called a “Soul” somewhere within, then we are intimately attached and effected by our physical environment. Anything that happens to our physical bodies, as well as any change in our environment that affects us is taken very seriously. Given the fact that most people are resistant to change, even though change is inevitable, this can cause extreme discomfort and distress.
Some of the examples of such changes and stressors include illness, accidents, getting older, threats to our physical and financial comforts and safety and so on. No wonder so many people are on anti-depressants and other medications for mental health. When asked about the quality of life and overall happiness, very few of my clients and patients are truly happy and satisfied with Who and What they are. It almost seems that for many people, being alive itself is a source of problems and stress as opposed to experiencing joy, happiness and fulfillment.
Further, in addition to the stress of being “Alive”, many people experience stress and extreme discomfort with the thought of “Death”. This is very logical and understandable given that the person’s perspective comes from the identity of Self with the physical body and matter primarily. The notion of the “Soul” is usually fleeting and poorly defined; rarely does it serve as a source of comfort and reassurance. From this perspective, “Death” is the end of Self as we know it, and anything else from that point on is for the most part unknown. Being human, the Unknown is usually a frightening thought and experience.
On the other hand one can re-frame the perspective to the identity of the “Self” as a “Soul”, also referred to in terms of “Energy”, “Eternal Being”, outside of the human perspective of limitations of space and time as we know it.
Those with near death, as well as having been through “OUT-OF-BODY” experiences will often experience a paradigm shift, a change in how they understand themselves and their environment. The difference is absolutely monumental. It is difficult to express in words the feeling that one develops as a result, and it may vary from fear and confusion (especially if there is a conflict with a very strongly held personal and religious belief system), to absolute liberation and freedom. This includes freedom from attachment to one’s physical body, attachment to material possessions and circumstances that surround us, freedom from the limiting beliefs involving “Life” and “Death”.
The process of living a life then takes an entire new meaning with the understanding that the physical body, while belonging to us, is but an instrument for a higher purpose and function, whatever that purpose and function means to the individual. The fear of aging, illness, injury, appearance, and the “status quo”, is no longer a threat. Without this fear, we are no longer limited or restricted in who we are and what we do. Regardless of what happens on the physical and material plane of existence, a person can maintain a sense of joy, freedom, satisfaction, purpose, and unlimited potential!
With regard to “Death”, the sense of fear is also released and the process of dying is nothing more than a transition point for the “Soul” which is really who/what we are.
So in a way, your true essence is far greater than your physical body associated with your name. If that doesn’t make you feel better about who you are and what you do, I don’t know what will.
Take home exercise: take a minute or longer to quiet the endless chatter of the mind, open yourself up to the possibilities that YOU ARE GREATER THAN YOUR PHYSICAL BODY, and see what happens.
According to Victor Frankle, holocaust survivor, author and founder of Logotherapy, “Between the stimulus and response, is a freedom to choose”. What is your choice? Are you a Body with a Soul, or a Soul with a Body?
It’s only important if you want to enjoy the quality of your life. Let me explain further. We can receive the same thing; say a small gift from someone on a birthday.
One way to go about it is to say to yourself that it’s your birthday and you deserve a gift, why be grateful? Isn’t it how it’s supposed to be? I am entitled to this and this is my right. Why not? Let’s consider that you are not given one for some reason. Will you be disappointed? Most likely yes!
Let’s take the other case scenario, same gift, same situation, but you are profoundly grateful. How much more will you enjoy it now? Instead of something that is a mundane event, it’s now a celebration! And if for some reason you don’t get a gift for your birthday, you are not disappointed. You still had your birthday.
The example above is silly, but if you take the same concept and apply it to the big things in life, such as love, relationships, friendship, health, roof over your head, ability to provide for the family or having someone who wants to do so for you.
Will you be grateful? Will you say Thank You? How much do you want to enjoy it?
How many of us have said that we love someone, at least once? Or perhaps on a daily bases. It may be to a parent, grandparent, spouse, girlfriend, friend, children, and especially to a favorite pet. It’s easy to love someone who does or is good to you and treats you well. But is this love Unconditional? What exactly is unconditional love? Is it loving someone for all their good and bad sides regardless of what they do to you? Does that mean that you actually love that harmful thing that they did? I would find it hard to do. So then how do you do it?
The answer lies in the fact that we can love and appreciate the person, while not loving what they did. Its human nature to make choices and the choice may not be a good one. Everyone has capacity for good or evil acts, thoughts or words. The person however can still be appreciated and loved regardless. In realizing that even someone who’s done something bad to you is fundamentally a good person with a capacity to do good the next time, we can love them, unconditionally.
So how does one actually resolve the pain or the hurt that is within? Usually the event or the person who has caused us pain is already gone; the pain just doesn’t seem to go away. The more we fight it, the more anger we release, the more we scream, hit things, re-run them in our mind or rehash over and over, the more it builds.
Will it ever end? Is there something that makes it go away? The answer is yes. It is simple, but it’s not easy. The way to make the pain go away is to RELEASE it. To release something, you just have to let it go. The facts won’t change but the emotional attachment to it will disappear. Without a strong emotion to constantly feed it, it’s already in actuality an issue that happened in the past. So if we think about it, as soon as you let go of it, it’s already a decayed corps that simply needs a proper burial.
One very effective way to do it is the following: I Love You, I Forgive You, I Am Sorry, Thank You! You could and should say this to the source of the injury if you can, especially if it’s a person, and especially if they are still in your life. It’s highly liberating. But the one you really have to say it to be Yourself. Try it. Perhaps the first time around it will be difficult, but it will make you feel much better!
On the nature of fear and hate:
Almost every person has something that they have learned to hate or fear in life. It may be a particular person, event, object, brand, country, a mouse or anything else, large or small. Often this feeling is so intense that the emotional reaction to it is as much or more than any real or perceived threat.
Many of us don’t even know the origin of this fear or hate. However, it has become so ingrained in us that we don’t even bother asking why. We just have this intense emotion and association, and often do things in a very reactive and sometimes destructive and hurtful way.
However, the shocking truth of it is that this object, event, person is simply that: an object, event or a person. It’s our internal aspect, something that is a part of us that we are afraid of or dislike greatly.
As a projection mechanism, when we react with such an intense and emotional reaction to it, the one that we hurt the most is… mostly ourselves. We do so by feeding into this fear or hate on a constant bases, and like a well fed child, it will grow. As it grows within you, it hurts more and more.
If we discover that we have a very intense negative emotional reaction to something, perhaps the best way is to look within and try to fix the root of the problem, thus removing the hurt and the pain altogether.
Are we more afraid of Death or Life?
When asked, most people will admit that they are afraid of death. Some are more concerned with physical or mental deterioration that goes with the process, others are afraid that it will be painful. Many however are more afraid of dying before they accomplish what they intend to do during their life. They are afraid of the time running out. Hence, so many people are maintained on life support machines at the end of their life process despite the fact that the recovery is unlikely or that suffering is getting worse and worse.
Why do so many people and their family members cling to staying alive at any cost?
A part of the answer lies in cultural upbringing and individual belief systems; the other, more basic component has to do with how one lives their life. If a person has followed their calling and is satisfied with what they accomplished and more importantly, performed the service to others, which they feel they should, the dying process itself becomes simply a transition.
In different cultures and belief systems there are different paths that the souls journey will take place and even if one chooses not to believe that there is anything after death, still there is a satisfaction with having lived a fulfilling life, no matter how long or short, and death is just another stage or a transition point.
Like most people I know, I’ve been through some very difficult situations as a result of which we end up feeling or being hurt. In my particular case, it was a frivolous lawsuit that settled, but in the process I have gone through very intense feelings of frustration, anger, even hate; a sense of injustice and failure of the legal system. I took it very, very personally.
Long after the matter has been resolved; it continued to play in my head over and over, with each new round taking on more anger, pain and sense of frustration and helplessness. Feeling like you are a victim is not easy. In my case, in retrospect, I even took on “the fangs”, the anger, hate, and those same qualities and characteristics of the person that hurt me the most. The victim (me) became the aggressor. In the process I ended up limiting myself in many ways, becoming my own worst enemy and hurting those around me who love me.
The interesting thing is that this pain and not knowing how to deal with the situation eventually led to seek spiritual and mental help, knowledge and understanding. The end result has produced a far better human being than the one before the injury in so many ways! I actually got to the bottom of my underlying personal weakness that allowed me to internalize this event as so painful and unfair. With the new understanding and putting it into practice, things of this nature no longer hurt me, and there are many of them.
So next time someone hurts you or you feel hurt for whatever reason, ask yourself, is there something within me that I need to examine about myself and improve upon. And when you do, please don’t forget to say thanks to the one who brought the lesson(s).